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Words I can say to make someone trust me with their secrets?

How can I get somebody that I deeply care about to open up to me? I never spread secrets, this person who I want to open up to me has been hurt in the past and doesn't trust people in general. what are some things that I can say and do to make them comfortable and trust me. I heard that saying somebodies name constantly can make them warm to you. what else? such as 'why don't you trust me' or what? best answer wins 10 points.

Public Comments

1. Tell them some of yours.
2. Whatever you do, don't say "trust me." That triggers an automatic sense of distrust.
3. tell me your secrets and i wont tell any body, j/k just be a good friend and wait, as soon as they get confident enough that you wont tell any one then they might tell you, but all you can do is wait and be kind to them,
4. Alot of times you just need to be quiet and let them speak and open up at their own pace. I don't think there are any magic words.
5. You can't make someone trust you. You must earn it. Your words may help them come around to trusting you, but just being yourself and being there for that person will eventually earn your trust.
6. there r no words. only true actions from the heart. trust is something earned over time.so b real ,relax.& give it time.
7. you can say ( come on mum i take after you heaps more than dad) other wise trust takes time not saying there name?
8. I would never trust a person who says "trust me" You have to prove you are a reliable person, but this will come in time the more this other person gets to know you. You will have to be patient I'm afraid.
9. I also don't trust anybody because I have been backstabbed before and hurt very badly when I have shared secrets. But I think if I found a person that would trust me the same way as she is expected me to trust her I would deffinitely feel comfortable. You just need to make her know that she is your friend and that you are being honest about everything and do with her what you want her to do with you.
10. It is nice to respect someone privacy,even to a lover/spouse.Their past has nothing to do with you,good or bad. Don't be nosey to people 's business,vice versa.
11. It's not your words, it's your actions, and it's the other person's personality. They might not be naturally trusting and open and that's OK.
12. There isn't any one thing in particular that you can say. You just have to be there when she is ready. You don't want to 'force' her into telling you things, as long as you are a good friend to her, when she's ready, she'll tell you things. But if there is something in particular you want to know about her, ask. I wouldn't use the what you don't trust me tactic either though. Believe me, someone who has things bottled up, want to talk, and when they find someone, they'll tell all.